25 MannersEvery Kid Should Know By Age 9
When asking for something, say "Please."
When receiving something, say "Thank you."
Related: Kid-Made Thank YouNotes
Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unlessthere is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finishedtalking.
If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase"excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.Manner #5
The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negativeopinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot ofadults.
Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless,of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them howthey are.Manner #9
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response --before entering.
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then askif you can speak with the person you are calling.
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift youreceive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerfuleffect.
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already knowall those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.Manner #14Don't call people mean names.
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others youare weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietlyand pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doingtheir best.
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick yournose in public.
As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it openfor someone else.
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working onsomething, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you maylearn something new.
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling andwith a smile.
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That personwill likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, askyour parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth whennecessary.
Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
See more on teaching manners to your toddlers and preschoolers.
Originally published in the March 2011 issue of Parents magazine.