Information on Bullying

  • What exactly is Bullying?

    There are lots of different kinds of bullying, but all of them are meant to make another person feel afraid or embarrassed or upset.  And all types of bullying have three things in common:

    1.    There's a power difference. Maybe the bully is older, bigger, stronger, or more popular than the student he or she is bullying. Or it might be a whole group ganging up on one student.

    2.    It’s hurtful on purpose.  The nasty things the bully says or does are no accident.  He or she is trying to be mean.

    3.    It happens more than once.  Bullying isn’t usually just a one-time event—it’s something that happens over and over again.

     

    Four Different Types of Bullying:

    1.    Physical bullying: hitting, shoving, poking, pinching, chasing, stealing or breaking someone’s stuff.

    2.    Verbal bullying: calling names, insulting, making mean jokes, and threatening to hurt someone.

    3.    Social bullying: excluding someone from a group, ignoring or avoiding someone, spreading rumors.

    4.    Cyber bullying: using technology to threaten, harass, or hurt someone, spread rumors, or pass on someone’s private information.

     

    Why would you want to Bully someone?

         ·     Maybe it makes you feel powerful.

         ·     Maybe you need to feel like you’re in control.

         ·     Maybe you feel bad about yourself and bullying makes you feel stronger, smarter or more popular.

    1.    Some bullies have been bullied themselves.

    2.    They may be bullying someone to seem tough so that others won’t bully them.

    3.    Other bullies blame the person they’re bullying.  They say the person is annoying or weak or deserves to be bullied for some other reason.

    4.    But there are no good excuses for bullying.  Insulting, hurting or intimidating other people definitely doesn’t mean you’re better than them.

     

    Who gets Bullied?

    Usually bullies pick on other people’s differences; so all kinds of people can be the targets of bullying.

         For example:

               ·     Big people and small people, short people and tall people

               ·     Smart people and those who aren’t so smart

               ·     People from different cultural or religious backgrounds

               ·     People who look unusual or act differently

               ·     People with disabilities

               ·     People who are alone a lot or who don’t have many friends

               ·     People who don’t have a lot of confidence

     

    Is it Teasing or Taunting?

    At times it can be hard to tell the difference between bullying and having fun. Joking around helps you enjoy school and have a good time with your friends.  But sometimes jokes are really bullying in disguise.

    Teasing and taunting both mean making fun of someone, but under the surface they are quite different.

    Is it Teasing?

    ·     A playful thing you do with friends

    ·     Not meant to hurt anyone’s feelings

    ·     The one being teased could easily tease back

    ·     Everyone laughs

    ·     If anyone gets upset, the teasing stops

    Or is it Taunting?

    ·     Not playful, done towards someone you don’t like

    ·     Meant to hurt someone’s feelings

    ·     The person being taunted can’t or won’t taunt back

    ·     People are laughing at the person, not with him or her

    ·     Even if the person gets mad or upset, the taunting doesn’t stop

     

    What can you do if you are being bullied?

    1. Be assertive

    Bullies often pick on people who seem to lack self-confidence.  If they think you’re the kind of person who will just take it, they’re more likely to choose you as a target.  The best protection against bullying is confidence.

            So what can you do when a bully is giving you a hard time?

            1.    Don’t get mad, cry, or show that you’re upset.

            2.    Answer in a strong, calm voice

            3.    Laugh or make a joke

            4.    Walk away from the situation

            5.    Remember that you deserve respect.

    2. Make sure you talk to an adult.

    It’s important to stand up for yourself, but some problems are tough to solve on your own.  If the bullying continues, it’s a good idea to ask for help.  Adults can help you if you’re being bullied, but only if they know what’s up.

    Bullying is not ok; you have the right to feel safe and comfortable both at school and outside of school.  And the adults in your life have a responsibility to help make sure you are safe.

    3. Find Strength in Numbers

    Bullies like to pick on kids who spend a lot of time alone.

    Stick with your friends as much as possible.  If you don’t have many friends, try joining clubs or activities where you can meet new people.  In fact, another great defense against bullying is being a good friend and having close friends who will help you out in tough situations.

    4. If it’s safe, Take a stand. Tell them to STOP!

    It can be hard to do, but sometimes it helps to speak out against bullying. Bullies count on their targets being too afraid or embarrassed to say anything about their behavior.

     

    Cyber Bullying

    Bullied online? Don’t reply!

    If you’re the target of cyber bullying, there are things you can do to make it STOP.

    1. Don’t Write Back

      Responding, especially when you’re angry or upset, gives the bully the response he or she is looking for.  Also, if you send    or post threatening or abusive messages you could get in trouble, too.

    2. Make a copy

      Save, print out or copy all bullying messages, post or pictures.

    3. Block the bully.

      Prevent the bully from contacting you via IM or private message.

    4. Leave.

      Don’t continue to go to chat rooms or other online environments where you’ve experienced bullying.

    5. Tell someone

      Tell an adult that you trust about the bullying, especially if you are very upset or worried about the situation… or if the    bullies are bothering you in person as well.

     

    For more information on cyberbullying, click the links below:

    Top Ten Tips for Prevention

    Top Ten Tips to Respond

     

    Reasons why we need to take action against Bullying?

         ·     By age 24, 60% of identified bullies have a criminal conviction

         ·     80% of middle school students engage in some type of bullying

         ·     Only 56% of students feel safe when they go to school

         ·     Bullies lose their popularity as they get older and are eventually disliked by the majority of students

         ·     Bullying occurs once every seven minutes

         ·     The emotional scars from bullying can last a lifetime

         ·     Most victims are unlikely to report bullying

     

    Consequences for Bullying

    Ed Code 48900.4 - Student Threats:

    In addition to the grounds specified in sections 48900 and 48900.2, a pupil enrolled in any of grades 4 through 12 may be suspended from school or recommended for expulsion if the pupil has intentionally engaged in harassment, threats, or intimidation, directed against school district personnel or pupils, that is sufficiently severe or pervasive to have the actual and reasonable expected effect of materially disrupting class work, creating substantial disorder, and invading the rights of either school personnel or pupils by creating an intimidating or hostile educational environment.
Last Modified on May 4, 2016